When a British charity worker got engaged to a young Ukrainian woman, he thought he was building a new life for them both in Odessa - he was wrong. James's car pulled up at the Villa Otrada. The year-old British charity worker had been looking forward to this moment for months. He was excited to see his fiancee, Irina, waiting for him outside the restaurant on Ukraine's Black Sea coast. Twenty years Naperville dating rules than him, she looked glamorous, her blonde hair fresh from the hairdresser.
Not far away were what James thought were Irina's parents and 60 invited marital dating Corona CA, also dressed to the nines. James got out of the car and the waiting crowd turned to clap. It was Julythe start of a hot summer in Odessa, and tables had been laid out on Villa Otrada's terrace overlooking the sea.
Moments later, James and Irina recited their wedding vows under an arch of flowers.
But what should have been the perfect moment was in fact nothing of the sort. By midnight James was lying alone in hospital, sick from a suspected spiked drink. He was married, but it wasn't to the woman he loved. It was the couple's wedding planner.
This is a story about how a British man lost most of his life savings, as well as his dignity. And how Ukraine's justice system laughed in his face. Such is his embarrassment that he's told no-one in the UK his story, not chinese girls looking for Fargo ND husbands his family. The BBC has verified his of what happened using bank documents, official records, text messages, and interviews with many of those directly involved. A showing the silhouette of a man in a hat with a pipe sticks out above the pavement of Lanzheronivska Street in central Odessa.
Follow the yellow-and-black arrow through the archway and across a courtyard, and you conservative dating Washington Dc the office of Robert Papinyan, private investigator.
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The former policeman is well-dressed, with dyed black hair. Everything is on brand. There's a Sherlock Holmes notepad, Sherlock Holmes business cards and his ringtone is the theme tune of the Soviet TV version of Sherlock Holmes which mature sex dating Petersburg VA in the former Soviet world argue is the best. As it turns out, Mr Papinyan's methods bear little relation to that of his fictional hero on Baker Street.
It's the entertainment heart of the city, full of restaurants and bars. Walk down it in the evening and you'll almost certainly see Western men dining out with much younger Ukrainian women, a bag of expensive deer gifts sitting on the chair beside them.
There's a thriving "dating" industry here. It's multi-faceted and ranges from pay-per-mail services to face-to-face "romance tours", where Western men pay thousands of dollars to meet a series dates Frederick MD prospective young Ukrainian "wives". But James says he didn't come to Odessa looking for love.
A charity worker living in the UK, he was asked by a friend in to help set up a new project supporting children fleeing the conflict zone in Ukraine's east. Europe's second-largest country had just undergone a revolution, and Russia had responded by supporting a rebel uprising. Working abroad was new to Dating with Visalia CA guy, but he threw himself into it with the help of a translator called Julia.
For several Vancouver WA of man online dating he shuttled back and forth, combining his voluntary work in Odessa with his full-time job in the UK. Then that winter, a heavy snowfall brought their work in Odessa to a halt. There wasn't much to do, so Julia suggested that James might like to go on a date with one of her friends. That friend was Irina. Then 32 years old, she was from Donetsk, one of the cities in eastern Ukraine that are now occupied by Russian-backed fighters.
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It soon became clear that her troubled past went much deeper than just fleeing war. There was an age difference of 20 years but James says they got on "like a house on fire". The couple went out for a few evenings in a row, enjoying Odessa's nightlife.
James had fun with Irina, but they were online dating scams Atlanta Georgia alone. Irina spoke minimal English and James no Russian or Ukrainian. But there was a chemistry between us," says James.
Perversely when they were apart, communication was easier. They flirted through the messaging app Viber, which has a translation function. And thanks so much for that… I believe in YOU. Just you can give me this happiness.
I love you," one message chinese sent James says. Over the next six months, the new couple saw each other whenever James came to Odessa. There were expensive meals and evenings at the Opera House. But intimacy, even kissing, was off-limits. Translator Julia was always there and Irina told him she didn't believe in sex before marriage. Eight months before the wedding reception, the pair held an engagement party at the same venue, Villa Otrada. A video shows James and Irina dancing slowly on the dancefloor. He's moving stiffly, she's smiling and waves at the camera.
It's November11 months after their first date. James had popped the question after some firm prodding from both Julia and Irina. He says he'd fallen in love but had no illusions about the strength of Irina's feelings. The connection was a sort of shared interest. James began paying for Irina to have Harmony dating Henderson NV lessons.
The hope was that it would pave the way for her to move with him to the UK. But after a few chats dating embassy officials, it was clear that the bureaucratic obstacles to a move were huge. So he took the plunge, deciding to move to Ukraine and start Mexico grier dating new life with Irina.
He quit his job and sold his house, and with Irina's and they began looking for a place to live together in Odessa. My friends in the UK thought it was a free hookup Bremerton step Odessa they were happy for me that Speed dating Manchester suburbs had a future.
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Transferring money from the UK to Ukraine is never straightforward. Ukraine is one of Europe's most corrupt countries and has had several high-profile banking scandals. Money-laundering controls mean there are limits on the size of the transfer, and big s quickly attract attention. Instead of putting the money in Irina's personalJames was told he should San Francisco CA older dating the money in the company of her friend Kristina, the wedding planner.
Despite some misgivings, James wired the money to Kristina. When the money arrived in Ukraine things romantic date ideas in Cedar Rapids a surreal turn. Irina announced to James that the bank would only release the money if he was legally married to Kristina. It would be a formality, completed in just 10 minutes in a registry office and unpicked at a later date, she said. James was now in an impossible situation.
With just days to go Irina was threatening to call off their minute dating Cary NC unless the money was released and they had a home to move into. So on Friday 10 Julywith the encouragement of his fiancee Irina, James married the wedding planner Kristina Stakhova.
Irina was "jumping up and down," James said, "she was happy now". With good reason. The day after marrying Kristina, James's taxi pulled up at his wedding reception to Irina at the Villa Otrada. His plan was to do everything apart from the legalities - go ahead with the wedding before sorting out a quickie divorce to Kristina and a new legal marriage to Irina.
With the benefit of hindsight, James now knows that everything about the wedding reception was a scam. The prices were inflated, the 60 guests most probably paid to be there, together dating Tyler Irina's "mother" turned out to be Julia the translator's mum. Meet Joliet brides was almost certainly the only one attending who thought it was real.
James didn't know it at that point, but his fiancee Irina already had a husband. Kristina the wedding planner also had a husband, called Denys, but he was apparently more mixed dating Rapids NY to play along.